We’re in December, can you believe it? It feels like this year has literally flown by! If you’re in Chicago like us, you’re likely in full winter mode (queue the hot cocoa, building snowmen with the kids, and cozy days inside).
But, let’s be real for a second. For many of us, this time of year also brings a little anxiety and maybe even a little bit of sadness. It’s the season of family and making memories, but sometimes being around the people you love can spark a little… jealousy.
We’ve all been there. You’re at the holiday party, and there’s always that successful cousin sharing stories of exotic travels. Or the sister with the "perfect" family dynamic you’ve been longing for. And then? You feel bad. You start asking yourself, Why aren’t I happy for them instead of wishing I could steal their life?
Well, friend, let me tell you: You are not the only one dealing with overcoming holiday anxiety right now. Especially around this time of year, when we reflect and look to make new year intentions, it’s totally normal to look back and wish this or that was different. And when you see a shining example of the possibilities you haven’t reached yet, it’s okay to feel a bit envious.
But, love, you’re forgetting something massive… you’re f*$%ing amazing. Right now. Just as you are. And if you really knew this in your soul, you’d see things completely differently. That is what we are really looking for. Let me explain.
The Truth About Self-Love (and Why It’s Hard)
We all know how important self-love is. You see it all over your timeline, you’ve seen the YouTube videos, and maybe you even read a few books. Needless to say, you get it. But so often we’re only scratching the surface of self-love.
I mean that unconditional love and appreciation for yourself. I mean, just look at you. Look how you’ve bravely triumphed over the challenges you once thought would take you down. Look how your beautiful body has taken you everywhere you’ve needed to go, even if you didn’t actually want to be there. Look how you keep getting up even when you feel like you can’t. That’s Rocky-level amazing right there, hun!
You deserve to be loved and honored. And I’m not talking just about the people around you (because we’ll get to that later). You need to be loved and honored by you.
Breaking the System of Insecurity
Here is the kicker: We live in a world that has conditioned us to see beauty in a very linear way. You know the vibe—thin but a little curvy, athletic but a little soft, long hair, soft features… you get it. But how ridiculous is it to say there’s only one type of beauty when we live in such a diverse world?
Deconditioning beauty standards isn't just about aesthetics; it's about economics. You see, our economy thrives on us comparing ourselves to others. It thrives on the media making us feel inadequate because the worse we feel, the more we’ll shop and buy things to try and "fix" that inadequacy.
As long as we stay in their cycle of self-disgust, we continue to pad their pockets. But when we realize our own worth? When we realize we’re more than our appearance? When we learn to love this amazing vessel we inhabit? We break the system. We send a message that we will no longer help them get rich by destroying how we feel about ourselves.
Enter the Heart Chakra
So, how do we actually do this? How do we move from "knowing" we should love ourselves to actually "feeling" it? This is where Heart Chakra healing comes into play.
Your Heart Chakra (Anahata) is the energy center of love, compassion, and connection. When it’s blocked—often by societal conditioning, trauma, and comparison—we feel jealousy, loneliness, and a lack of self-worth. When it is open and balanced, we feel deep self-acceptance and joy, regardless of what our cousin is doing on Instagram.
But when we bring ourselves back into alignment and learn to truly and unconditionally love ourselves? Not only do we see life differently but we also teach others around us how to love us. We learn to set boundaries because we value ourselves. And maybe we even inspire someone else to love themselves. It’s like a beautiful cyclical energy that’s only activated when you find true self-love.
Bringing this energy into alignment is the secret sauce to surviving the holidays (and life) with your joy intact.
The "My Own Soulmate" Ritual
We believe that chakra-inspired skincare is one of the most potent ways to bridge the gap between your physical body and your energetic truth. We all have some sort of skincare ritual, whether that’s just washing your face every day or a full-on maintenance routine. Why not turn that routine into a moment of self-care? That is why we curated the "My Own Soulmate" Ritual Kit.
This isn't just a bundle of products; it is a toolkit for deprogramming toxic messaging. It is designed to help you bring your heart into alignment with your truth.
Featuring our "Love on the Brain" blend—a floral mix of jasmine and rose specifically formulated to open the Heart Chakra —this ritual invites you to:
- Set the mood: Light the Love on the Brain Body Oil Candle to clear your space of comparison energy.
- Anoint yourself with love: As the candle continues to pool, use your Sexy & I Know It Room Spray to cleanse your space and aura, letting the mist gently fall over you. This room spray is designed to empower your sacral chakra, bringing you back to what brings you joy.
- Set the intention: As you apply the oil from your body oil candle or Intention Setting Oil, recite the mantra: I am whole, I am worthy, I am my own soulmate.
- Bonus: Carry your Intention Setting Oil with you every day for the next 30 days. Create a habit of applying the oil anytime you become aware of toxic thoughts inhibiting your self-love. This helps decondition your brain and build new neural pathways, reframing those default negative thoughts and replacing them with your new intention.
This is a self-love ritual that doesn't try to "fix" you. It celebrates you. It reminds you that you don't need to change your body, your career, or your life to be worthy of love. You just need to come home to yourself.
So, this December, if the green-eyed monster tries to crash your holiday party, take a breath. Remember that Heart Chakra healing is a journey, and you have the power to shift the narrative.