I used to believe that to be a "good person," you had to be a happy person. I thought that spiritual self-care meant a life of perpetual bliss, where anger, sadness, and frustration were just things to be "healed" and moved on from. Maybe you've felt that, too? The pressure to be positive can be exhausting, can't it? But what I've learned on my journey as an Emotional Alchemist is that pretending everything is butterflies and rainbows is actually the most damaging thing you can do for your emotional well-being.
Because the truth is, not every emotion is a rainbow. And not every emotion is a sign of a problem to be solved. What if that anger you feel bubbling up inside you is actually a signal? A powerful anger as a messenger here to deliver a vital piece of information? What if the most powerful thing you can do is simply stop trying to "get over it," and start honoring your emotions instead?
Your Rage is Not a Problem; It’s a Messenger
We've been conditioned to view rage as a bad, chaotic emotion to be suppressed. But that's not a realistic or healthy approach. Think of your rage not as a destructive fire, but as an alarm going off. It’s loud, it’s uncomfortable, but it's here to warn you about something important.
Listen closely, because your anger could be telling you:
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A boundary has been crossed that you need to enforce.
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A fundamental need of yours is not being met.
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A part of you feels unseen, unheard, or disrespected.
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There is a deep truth that has been hidden from you—or that you’ve been hiding from yourself.
This is the core of emotional alchemy: you don't have to get rid of your feelings. You just have to listen to them. They are here to guide you to a deeper understanding of yourself, to shine a light on where your power has been given away, and to help you reclaim it.
The Energetic Roots of Your Rage: Sacral Chakra and The Wild Woman
To truly understand anger, we have to go beyond the surface. We have to look at its energetic home. While often linked to the Root Chakra's sense of safety, anger's expression and creative force are deeply rooted in the Sacral Chakra.
This energy center isn't just about play, creativity, and pleasure. It is also the seat of your inner "wild woman"—the untamed, powerful, and instinctual part of you. In ancient times, women would gather in red tents to honor their menstrual cycles, initiate each other into womanhood, and share the wisdom of their bodies. This was a time to be fully in your power and to express all of your emotions without shame. But society has long since shunned this practice, and as a result, many women enter adulthood without understanding the cyclical nature they've entered—the sacred dance that seems to follow the moon.
When we deny our rage, we deny the wild, authentic wisdom of the Sacral Chakra. We deny ourselves the chance to stand in our power and use that raw emotion as a force for change. Rage as a creative force can build things up and tear down old systems that no longer serve us. It just has to be directed with intention.
The Enchantress: Honoring Your Inner Cycle
Our emotions are not linear. They are cyclical, just like the seasons and the moon. As a Lunar Womb Guide, I teach women how to understand their cycles and the archetypes that come with them.
The Enchantress Phase, which often corresponds with the pre-menstrual week, is a powerful example. This is when your inner truth-teller comes out, and you may find yourself feeling more sensitive, more aware of what’s out of alignment, and yes, more irritable. This isn't a flaw; it's an energetic gift. Your body is preparing to release, and that often comes with an emotional intensity. It’s a completely normal part of your rhythm.
So, instead of fighting it and forcing yourself to be happy, what if you created a ritual to honor these phases? To welcome your emotions with open arms and allow them to deliver their message?
A Ritual for Honoring Your Feelings
This is where you move from just thinking about your emotions to actually feeling them. And you can do it with a simple ritual using a tangible tool. Our "Sexy & I Know It" Incense Sticks are the perfect partner for this. While they're often associated with sensuality, the Sacral Chakra's energy is powerful enough to hold both pleasure and rage.
A Simple Ritual:
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Light it up. Light your incense stick and set a simple intention. Don’t set the intention to get rid of your anger. Set the intention to simply listen to your rage.
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Sit with it. As the all-natural charcoal incense sticks burn, sit in quiet contemplation or take out your journal. Instead of asking, "Why am I so angry?" ask, "What are you trying to tell me?" and allow yourself to feel your feelings without judgment.
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Cleanse the Space, Not the Emotion. The smoke from the incense will gently cleanse the energetic space, creating a container for your emotions. It helps clear away any stagnant energy that has been keeping the emotion stuck.
Ready for Deeper Healing?
While products can support your daily rituals, they are just the beginning of healing from burnout. If you’re ready to dive deeper into the world of emotional mapping, cycle wisdom, and reconnecting with your body's rhythm, my Lunar Womb Guide & Emotional Alchemist Services are here for you.
Together, we can go from simply managing your emotions to truly understanding them, so you can transmute burnout into balance and finally find your authentic flow.
Your feelings are not a flaw. They are a map. And you are safe to feel it all.
Explore my services here or shop the Sexy & I Know It incense to start your ritual today.
